What I want from my next relationship

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What I want from my next relationship

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I must move on and experience new relationship after my divorce.

I shouldn’t:

  • Compare new person to my ex-wife

  • Start a weird relationship, like: Only for sex, too young, too old, etc

  • Mix finances too early

  • Overshare too soon

  • Let loneliness drive decisions

  • Introduce new partners to your close circle too quickly

  • Neglect your personal growth: Avoid making the relationship your sole focus

  • Compromise your standards: Don’t settle for less than you deserve just to avoid being single.

  • Use dating as revenge: Dating to make your ex jealous is unfair to both you and your new partner.

  • Rely solely on online dating: Balance digital platforms with real-world social opportunities.

  • Stay in toxic relationships: End things quickly if you sense a relationship is harmful or unhealthy.

  • Lose sight of your independence: Maintain your hobbies, friendships, and routines even when dating.

I should:

  • Be honest

  • Be transparent

  • Take things slow, take my time, don’t rush into something serious

  • Pay attention to red flags:

    • Controlling behaviour

    • Lack of respect for boundaries

    • Narcissism

    • Dishonesty

  • Be looking for Friendship rather than romantic relationship

  • Be upfront about what I am looking for: Casual relationship, sex and have someone who is safe and caring

  • Communicate with her: Practice open, honest and respectful communication, Pay attention to their words and actions, to ensure compatibility and trustworthiness

  • Meet people in safe environments: public places and groups

  • Make sure our long term goals align with each other

  • Keep trusted friends in the loop, to increase safety

  • Stay open-minded about meeting people through different avenues like events, apps, or mutual friends

  • Avoid using dating as a way to fill a void left by your divorce

With or without relationship, I should prioritize my well-being: Engage in activities that boost my mental and physical health, such as exercise, meditation, or hobbies.